“Oh…so that’s what they’re for!”

When I was pregnant with my oldest, I couldn’t fathom nursing a baby.  Breasts were strictly an erotic weapon in my book but I agreed to nurse D for the first 6 months and pump milk to feed him via bottle as I didn’t want to hear it from my mother–in-law; a certified lactation consultant. 

It’s funny how you think you’ll know exactly how you’ll act and exactly what you’ll do before you push a tiny 7 lb. bundle out of your nether regions and drink in every ounce of their preciousness.  As soon as I saw D cuddle into my chest fresh from the womb, I was sold.  I nursed him then and I nursed him up until he self-weaned at 15 months, never using a bottle.  I occasionally got the sideways glance at a restaraunt or was the object of whispered conversations at the mall, but when D wanted to eat, I nursed, even if I was in the middle of watching Wedding Crashers at a movie theater between my husband and a large lumber jack type scarfing down nachos.  Overall, nursing D and taking him straight from the tap to a sippy cup was one of my finest parenting accomplishments.  With the stars having alligned so wonderfully for my first nursing experience, you can imagine how I eager I was to attempt my next great feat; nursing twins.

Let me tell you, I’m not sure if it’s because we’ve moved back to the midwest or because people are getting more nosey by the day but no one has sat back quietly as I’ve nursed our newest additions.  I have always used the gorgeous cover I bought from Hooter Hiders from when I was nursing D so it’s not like I’m sitting in public, nips flapping in the wind!  I nurse them one at a time amongst questions and unwanted suggestions.  My favorite was from a trip to the mall a few months ago:

Middle aged woman sitting in commons area shoving most of an Auntie Anne’s pretzel into her yap, some kind of dip dangling off the corner of her mouth:  “I see you’re (barely audible whisper) nursing.”

Sarah:  “Yep.  That I am.”

Middle aged woman, mouth completely full of pretzel:  “Well do you really think that’s appropriate?  I mean, we’re at a mall.”

Sarah, motioning to the woman’s 2nd pretzel:  “Well, yeah, I know but when you gotta eat you gotta eat, right?”

Woman:  “Well, yes, but in my day giving the illusion of revealing yourself was something reserved for  looser women, not mothers.”

Sarah:  “Wow, I wasn’t aware nursing was a form of harlottry.  I’ll have to share that with the hubby.  Maybe he’ll start to find the midnight nursing sessions sexy.”

Woman, disgusted look on her face:  “Hmm, yes, well I doubt he’d be very pleased if he knew his wife was shaking her goods around the mall for every other man to see.  Nothing’s sacred anymore in marriage, is it?”

Woman gets up and begins to walk off.

Sarah, calling after her, pissed beyond belief:  “Ya know, God intended these for nourishment, not so some dude could get his rocks off!”

Woman shudders and folds her arms, picks up the pace and is out of sight.

Sure, I caused a commotion, and C had even stopped nursing to watch his mommy defend his right to eat.  As I looked around, coming down off the adrenaline high that turning into a mama bear can give you, I realized more people were staring at me than I usually care for.  I began to regret raising my voice so loudly at big-mouth-double-pretzel-dip-lip until I gazed down at C who had happily latched back on and was once again enjoying his afternoon snack. 


I should have decked her.

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  1. Andreah said,

    February 11, 2009 at 4:09 am

    What nerve that lady had! Geez, poo on her!

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  2. Andreah said,

    February 11, 2009 at 4:10 am

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  3. February 11, 2009 at 5:27 am

    *jaw stuck open*

    No. WAY! I can’t even believe that. Can. Not. Good job mom! Yeah, a good decking would have been, LOVELY.

    Oh my gosh! I am still in shock. You handled your self very, very well… *applause*

    • Sarah said,

      February 11, 2009 at 1:46 pm

      Thank you, thank you. *bows* You’re too kind.

  4. Dee said,

    February 11, 2009 at 1:49 pm

    I get TONS of “advice”!

    AND…just wanted to let you know that your email address isn’t public in your profile that you use to leave me a comment! I can’t get back in touch with you if its not there! I had to track you down from the link you left on my blog!

  5. maureensk said,

    February 12, 2009 at 8:03 am

    Good comeback! I never come up with things like that until 1-365 days later. Decking her would have got you put in jail and you couldn’t have nursed from there, so this was better. 🙂

  6. Sabrina said,

    February 13, 2009 at 2:42 am

    IN LAWS…mother in law to be precise. I was the worst most horrific mother for BF’ing till my son was 18 months old. Oddly enough he’s a well balanced 3 year old, pleasant, calm, smart, loves fruit and veggies…I got a joy bf’ing in public, got the glances but I also got a lot of positive feedback. I used the “how would you like to take your dinner in the bathroom???” approach a couple of times though.


  7. March 2, 2009 at 8:13 pm

    You Go Grrrl!
    I’ll be relaying your story to all who can hear! I”m so tired of people asking me, “When are you going to give that up?” Of course, I just respond with, “Ask I. It’s up to her!”

    Great post. Thanks for sharing.

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